Relationships are an area where people often invest a great deal of their emotional currency, and where they are often reticent to withdraw their funds even when the investment is clearly not paying off. There are a lot of reasons for that, but for now, we only need to recognize that partnerships tend to be such a significant area in our lives that they can gain a kind of power over us. We say that we have relationships, but in many cases our relationships have us. Leaving a relationship or having a partner leave can be a traumatic event in a person’s life.

We meet many other souls as we move through life, and in one way or another they teach us about love and who we really are at a fundamental level. We connect deeply with some of these souls—as lovers but also as friends, family, and in other ways—and we find great joy in these connections.

Alas, we are on this plane to learn and evolve, not to bask in the joy of love. Or perhaps we are here to bask in the joy of love, but most of us have quite a bit of learning to do before we can really live that way. Despite our deep connections, despite the love we feel, our complex lives often don’t mesh with the transcendent soul connections.

From the preface to
Separating Aspects: The Astrology of Breakups, Divorce, and Other Partings.